My World, My questions

Are we ever truly happy?  Do you think that we create chaos so that we have a touch stone of happiness? I don't.  Can we truly deeply love people, a singular person, with a complete heart, find the magic and still have issues?  I think so.  Can we love someone and it is not enough?  I am wondering about that.  

How does the rest of the world handle new relationships, new situations, all the while tolerating the exes and the baggage that they bring?  I am thinking it is easier to have a completely clean break, change out all your friends and start from the very beginning all over, then try to juggle through all the chaos that it brings.  I made a mistake in that I mistook a conversation for a time when I should have been listening and validating.  We all bring to our current relationships baggage from the last ones, even from our early ones....it is interesting trying to sort through the your and mine of the baggage to get through to the real core of who we are as people.  Will I leave my relationship?  No...Do I love deeply?  Yes! Is there anything to be afraid for?  No, but how do you convince someone when they have been so hurt before?  It is by time, by love, by staying the course and having them realize that I am not going anywhere, no matter how much they push...

I want to get to the secure place, where no one ever has to wonder, Is there that place, ever????